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Health Information For Kids
Sure, you talk to your parents, but what if you need to really talk? Maybe you have a problem you can’t solve alone. Or it could be that you want to feel closer to your Mom and Dad.
It’s easy to say “Hi, Mom” or “Dad, can you pass the potatoes?” It can be harder to start talking about personal topics. Still, it’s good to confide in your parents. In fact, it can help a lot.
Let’s face it, talking about personal stuff can feel embarrassing. But remember, your parents know you pretty well — and they were your age once, too! So don’t let a little embarrassment stop you. It’s OK to go ahead and share what’s on your mind.
Some kids might think if they share a problem, they’ll make a parent worried or upset. But your mom or dad can handle knowing about your problem, big or small. If they look concerned, it just means they care, and that they feel for you.
Some kids might not bring up a problem because they just don’t want to think about it — and hope it will just go away. But sweeping a problem under the rug hardly ever solves it. And bottling up your feelings can make you feel stressed.
Talking things over with a parent can help you feel less stressed. Together, you can think of ways to cope, solve the problem, and feel better. Just knowing your parent understands and cares about what you’re going through can reduce your stress a lot.
Do you need to talk about something important? Try these tips:
Once you get started, your mom or dad will listen and talk, too. Then you can have more of a back-and-forth discussion.
Explain your situation. Give details that can help parents understand your situation. Explain what you think, feel, and want.
Be honest. If you’re always honest, a parent will be likely to believe what you say. If you sometimes hide the truth or add too much drama, parents will have a harder time believing what you tell them. If you lie, they’ll find it hard to trust you.
Try to understand their side. If you have a disagreement, can you see your parents’ side? If you can, say so. Telling parents you understand their side helps them be willing to see yours, too.
Try not to argue or whine. Use a tone that’s friendly and respectful. That makes it more likely parents will listen and take what you say seriously. It also makes it more likely that they’ll talk to you in the same way.
Share the good stuff, too. Make it a habit to talk to your parents about things besides problems. Share what goes well for you, too. Tell them about a good part of your day, a grade you’re proud of, or a funny joke a friend told you. Talking helps you be close and enjoy each other more.
Most of the time, you and your parents can have a good talk and make at least some progress. But for some kids, it might not work out. Some parents have troubles of their own. Others just can’t be available in the ways their kids need and deserve. Others have a hard time being flexible.
If you can’t talk to your parent, seek out other adults you can trust. Find a relative, a teacher, or a counselor who will listen, understand, encourage, believe in you, and care. Then follow all the tips above to get the most from your conversation with that person.
Noticing your feelings and saying how you feel can help you feel better. This article for kids has ideas on how to practice talking about feelings and emotions.
How can you get along better with your parents and have more fun together? Follow these five steps.
Millions of kids live with just one parent. Are you one of them? Find out more in this article for kids.
Do you have a stepmom or stepdad? Lots of kids do. Find out more in this article for kids.
Did you know that millions of kids live with their grandparents? Find out more in this article for kids.
Brothers and sisters might not always get along. How can you keep the peace? Find out in this article for kids.
It’s normal for parents to disagree and argue sometimes. But when parents fight, it can make kids feel upset. The good news is that usually families can work together to solve problems.
It’s normal for family members to disagree once in a while. Learn how keep your cool during an argument.
School counselors know how to listen and can help kids with life’s challenges.
Knowing what to say comes naturally for some kids, but others need some help. Learn how to start a conversation, keep it going, and more.
Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
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