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If you’ve ever marveled at the look of concentration on the face of a child who tries to fit a square block into a square hole or catch a ball in mid-air, you know that playtime isn’t just about fun and games. It’s serious business — and toys are the tools of the trade.
Here is an age-wise guide to how kids play, and to the toys that entertain and help kids understand the world, learn social and emotional skills, and stimulate a developing brain.
Play in the first year of life is all about exploration. Babies use their five senses to learn about the interesting new world around them: Does an object feel hard or soft? Sticky or rough? What does it do if I drop it? Or put it in my mouth? Most play consists of “tasting” or mouthing an object and shaking, banging, or dropping it.
When your baby develops new motor skills, play becomes more coordinated and complex. For example:
During this time, play is usually a solitary activity, but playing side-by-side with other babies and imitating activities is common by year’s end.
For now, you are your baby’s favorite playmate. Have you ever danced a puppet in front of your baby’s face, only to have him grab it and pull it toward his mouth? Or has he ever squealed in anticipation and delight when you creep toward him, saying, “I’m gonna get you!”
These interactions help your baby learn about language, social relations, and cause-and-effect. Once babies begin to understand how things in the environment relate to each other and how they taste, smell, feel, and sound, babies are ready for the next stage of development: figuring out how they work.
Toddlers are becoming aware of the function of objects. They like to stack blocks, babble into a toy phone, or drink from a “big kid” cup. The concept of pretend play starts now. Your little one might tuck a baby doll into bed at night or make “choo choo” noises while pushing a toy train.
This lays the groundwork for preschool play, when using the oven timer in a play kitchen or ringing the bell in a pretend fire truck signifies your child’s growing understanding that each item serves a purpose.
Your toddler also will begin to differentiate colors and shapes. So choose toys that are bright, colorful, and fun for little hands to hold. By age 2, most toddlers can kick a ball, scribble with a crayon, and build towers four or more blocks tall. By age 3, they can do simple puzzles and pedal a tricycle.
Expect to see a lot of repetition, as that’s how little ones master new skills and learn they have some control over the world around them.
Babies explore objects with the five senses. Toddlers start figuring out how they work. Now, as preschoolers, they’ll use toys and other objects for their intended purpose, yet also will imagine a world of other possibilities for them. A blanket thrown over a coffee table becomes a secret clubhouse. Modeling clay can be used to make pizza pies that you’re asked to “taste.”
For a preschooler, the world becomes a magical place without limits — and preschoolers are the masters and creators of it all. Many kids this age think they have magical powers and can battle “monsters” and win, or turn into a princess, fairy, or other whimsical creature.
Often, your preschooler will pull you into a fantasy and expect you to play along. It’s also during this time that imaginary friends may “appear.” This type of fantasy play is crucial to kids’ development because it helps them work on their fears, anxieties, hopes, and dreams.
The world is also a stage, so expect to hear lots of “mommy, daddy, watch!” as your preschooler learns one new trick after another and seeks your approval and support for new accomplishments. The desire to connect with others extends to friends as preschoolers begin to learn the give-and-take of cooperative play and sharing.
Pretend play becomes more elaborate. Kids’ knowledge of the world is more advanced, so don’t be surprised if your preschooler knows exactly how to work electronic gadgets or make electrical toys (like a radio-controlled car or a video game) work.
Play itself becomes more physical. Why just walk when you can hop, jump, or skip?
Elementary school-age kids are accomplished in ways they never were before. They’ve grasped an understanding of the world around them and are now moving toward mastering skills that once challenged them, like catching a football or braiding a friend’s hair.
This also is the time where talents and interests take hold — a 4-year-old who enjoyed story time may grow to love reading; a 5-year-old who listened to music might want to play piano.
Physical abilities, like large and fine motor skills, are being refined. Children learn to ride two-wheel bicycles and glide on skateboards. Arts and crafts become more intricate, and a child might spend hours weaving friendship bracelets or drawing comic strips.
Peer relationships take on more importance, and your child might be more interested in playing with classmates than with you. But remember that even as your child matures, you are still the most important playmate — so try to carve out some one-on-one time. Family game nights are one way to get everyone together.
And now’s the time to try new adventures, such off-road biking, that kids couldn’t do when they were younger and need your supervision to do safely now.
A baby staring at a mobile; a toddler stacking blocks; a pre-schooler painting with watercolors — all are activities that can be done independently.
But don’t underestimate your role. After all, it’s you who put up the mobile, turned it on, and encouraged your baby to follow. It’s you who first showed your baby how to stack those blocks. And when you sit side-by-side with your kids and paint, color, or read a story, you give them the attention they need to build their self-esteem and feel loved and secure.
Toys are a tool to help kids develop, but it’s parents who nurture that growth.
Play is the building block of childhood. It teaches kids about their world. Here, learn what activities inspire and motivate, and which toys are not only safer, but smarter, too.
Looking for ways to keep the kids entertained and off the couch when the weather’s bad? These quick-and-easy ideas will keep them happy and busy.
Kids ages 3-5 have tons of energy and are eager to walk, run, dance, and play. It’s a great age for exploration too.
Toddlers are learning to talk, to walk and run, and to assert their independence. For many in this age group, “outside” and “play” are common requests.
Toys are a fun and important part of any child’s development. And there’s plenty you can do to make sure all toys are safe.
Is your 10-year-old crying for a pellet gun? How about that used scooter? For help figuring out what toys are safe and appropriate for older kids, read these tips.
How can you tell if a small toy poses a choking risk? What types of unsafe toys should you avoid for your baby, toddler, or preschooler? Find out here.
It might look like just child’s play, but toddlers are hard at work learning important physical skills as they gain muscle control, balance, and coordination.
Following these safety guidelines can make neighborhood playgrounds entertaining and safe for your kids.
You wake up and the weather is all wet. What are you going to do today? Here are four ideas to try when it’s raining cats and dogs.
Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
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