If nothing is working, put your baby in a safe place and walk away.
You may do all of the above, and find that your baby is still crying. Here are some strategies:
- If you are at risk of losing control – for example, if you are yelling, crying or feeling anger in your mind or body – put your baby in a safe place, on their back, and walk away.
- If there is another adult with you, ask that they take a turn with the baby.
- If not, it is perfectly acceptable to leave your crying baby in a safe place (a crib or pack ‘n play are both good choices) for a few moments so that you can calm down.
- Try taking deep breaths, talking to a friend, eating a snack, stepping outside – or even vacuuming. The vacuum noise may calm both you and your baby, the movement will give you something physical to do to release your frustration, and your room will be cleaner when you’re done!
- Never hit, squeeze, punch or shake your baby violently. Any of these actions can cause irreversible harm.
Share these tips with all of your baby’s caregivers.
Make sure that anyone who may care for your baby has these tips and understands the dangers of shaking or otherwise harming an infant.
If you have concerns about your own child, another child you care for, or the ability of an adult you know to properly care for their child, contact the Connecticut State Department of Children and Families at 1.800.842.2288.